The Blended Life

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Removed

So often our babes from foster care come with so many labels attached because of the trauma they have experienced. What we often fail to understand is that they WANT to revive connection, care, reciprocation, it's just such a long, long, way back. This is why Removed...

The Blended Life Turns Three

Blended celebrated three years in the blogosphere this week! Three whole years since I thought, "You know I don’t read any dedicated blogs for multiracial Blended families" and then had the crazy idea of beginning one. Three years of blogging during naps, blogging...

10 Things I Have Learned About Blogging

Often I am asked about beginning a blog, sustaining a blog, or simply how to find the time to write at all. On the eve of Blended's blogaversary (that is the weirdest word ever) I have done a bit of reflection about both my writing life and more specifically, writing...

There Is A Tween Living In My House

At the beginning of the year after wishing you a Happy New Year I mentioned that we are in a new phase of life with a full fledged Tween in the house. As with any new season of life this has brought new issues and experiences, and some of it has centered on adoption....

When to Tell Your Child Their Whole Story

When to Tell Your Child Their Whole Story

Adoption is birthed from loss; there is no way around that. Once we as adoptive parents can get our hearts around that truth we are better equipped to help our kids. Those of us who know our child's early beginnings have the meaningful job of communicating those...

Oh, The Blended Web

With the sun making it's first appearance here in some time, I am planning some outdoor fun for this family of mine. What are you doing this weekend?  Whatever you do, make some time to relax and enjoy a special curated list of articles and happenings just for Blended...

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So, You Couldn’t Have Children of Your Own?

This week is Infertility Awareness Week and I’m participating with Adoption Magazine’s blog hop on this often difficult topic by sharing some of my personal story. People often assume that you are unable to have biological children when you adopt. Countless times,...

The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it...

When Hair is Threatening

    Back in September my oldest daughter and I were listening to the news in the car when we heard about Tiana Parker. A seven-year-old excluded from school for lacking 'presentable' hair. We learned that little Ms. Parker's 'unpresentable hair' was dreads...

Blended at Feast

Recently I had the honor of speaking at FEAST, a program offered by First Presbyterian Church in Vancouver, Washington. It is a community event at which they have dinner together and then learn together around a given topic. It was a joy for me to share about the...

A Blended Approved Read – “Goose” by Molly Bang

My friend and Blended contributor Kurt emailed me recently about a video he stumbled across in his local library. The video is called Goose by Molly Bang and is narrated by Laura Dern. Originally a book, I quickly looked to see if it was in my library. Sadly it was...

10 Things I Have Learned About Blogging

Often I am asked about beginning a blog, sustaining a blog, or simply how to find the time to write at all. On the eve of Blended's blogaversary (that is the weirdest word ever) I have done a bit of reflection about both my writing life and more specifically, writing...

A Blended Snapshot

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Beginning a weekly ritual here in an attempt to share small moments from The Blended Life. Just a simple snapshot from...

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Everyday Bread

One of the biggest changes we made when we discovered our son was allergic to preservatives in our everyday food, was change our everyday bread. We could no longer purchase bread at the grocery store because of all the chemicals in each loaf, and the all natural...

Dinners Around the World – October

Friends, we have been cooking together for nine months! Nine months of homemade kitchen discoveries and ultimate cuisine disaster. It has been fun, right? My kids look forward to each month and just what I will surprise them with (sometimes to their horror). All in...

Boredom Buster Sites for Kids

A few weeks ago I was featured over at The Chaos and The Clutter for my Boredom Buster Books post. I wanted to follow that piece with some amazing websites that will also engage, encourage and spur creativity in your kids this summer. These sites are basically like...

In Honor of Black History Month – Because Of Them We Can

Black History Month runs the entire month of February and I have already read far too many posts for and against Black History Month with the best being Aisha Harris over at Slate. Taking her advice I want to move beyond in order to learn more - and as usual I am...

Give a Welcome Box to a Child Entering Foster Care This Season

Our Advent Calendar was hung with great excitement and anticipation on November 30th. Each morning since the 1st of December my kids enter our kitchen with shuffling feet and sleepy eyes, awake only enough to search out if their siblings are also awake and then one of...

When to Tell Your Child Their Whole Story

Adoption is birthed from loss; there is no way around that. Once we as adoptive parents can get our hearts around that truth we are better equipped to help our kids. Those of us who know our child's early beginnings have the meaningful job of communicating those...

Oh, The Blended Web…

What are you doing this weekend? I am finishing Halloween costumes and picking pumpkins with these fall-minded kiddos of mine. What could be more fun than climbing in apple crates, over hay bales and getting lost in the corn maze? But after that I need to relax a...