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Removed

So often our babes from foster care come with so many labels attached because of the trauma they have experienced. What we often fail to understand is that they WANT to revive connection, care, reciprocation, it's just such a long, long, way back. This is why Removed...

The Blended Life Turns Three

Blended celebrated three years in the blogosphere this week! Three whole years since I thought, "You know I don’t read any dedicated blogs for multiracial Blended families" and then had the crazy idea of beginning one. Three years of blogging during naps, blogging...

10 Things I Have Learned About Blogging

Often I am asked about beginning a blog, sustaining a blog, or simply how to find the time to write at all. On the eve of Blended's blogaversary (that is the weirdest word ever) I have done a bit of reflection about both my writing life and more specifically, writing...

There Is A Tween Living In My House

At the beginning of the year after wishing you a Happy New Year I mentioned that we are in a new phase of life with a full fledged Tween in the house. As with any new season of life this has brought new issues and experiences, and some of it has centered on adoption....

When to Tell Your Child Their Whole Story

When to Tell Your Child Their Whole Story

Adoption is birthed from loss; there is no way around that. Once we as adoptive parents can get our hearts around that truth we are better equipped to help our kids. Those of us who know our child's early beginnings have the meaningful job of communicating those...

Oh, The Blended Web

With the sun making it's first appearance here in some time, I am planning some outdoor fun for this family of mine. What are you doing this weekend?  Whatever you do, make some time to relax and enjoy a special curated list of articles and happenings just for Blended...

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{Re}Connecting with a Birthparent

I am happy to share this space today with my friend Sara Specter. Sara is a fellow adoptive mama and part of the greater Blended community. As part of an open adoption I have been amazed at the lengths Sara goes to in order to stay in touch with her daughter's...

A Celebrated Blended Moment

It was an ordinary night at the dinner table. In fact we were eating one of January’s Indian dinners with the kids while looking at the map and talking about India’s neighboring countries. Our conversation migrated to talking about their friends East Indian heritage...

What I Would Say To You

Last week I had an interesting conversation. A writer friend asked me if she were a prospective parent considering adopting a multiracial child what would be the top three things I would say to her. In some ways this resonated with a recent talk I gave at Feast which...

Alpaca Hats

A few months ago while anticipating the arrival of another niece (horray!) I began thinking about what to make for the new family addition. If you are a knitter like me, you may have an overwhelming stash of yarn odds and ends. I was pleased to find in my stash the...

Boredom Buster Sites for Kids

A few weeks ago I was featured over at The Chaos and The Clutter for my Boredom Buster Books post. I wanted to follow that piece with some amazing websites that will also engage, encourage and spur creativity in your kids this summer. These sites are basically like...

How To Talk About The Hard Things {Or Eleven-Year-Old Sages}

I am the official Spring Break Chauffeur or “SBC” as I am enjoying calling myself. If you're at my house you might even hear me announce, “The SBC says it’s time to depart.” {Somehow using a title gets my kids moving toward the van instead of my usual boring mom...

Throwback Thursday: What I Would Say To You

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Every Thursday in November in honor of National Adoption Month I will host Throwback Thursday here at The Blended Life....

Closure – a film

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Last night I had the privilege of screening Closure, a film by Bryan Tucker. Closure is a film about his wife Angela's...

Blended One Year Later And Giveaway!

Today I celebrate the one year anniversary of Blended. I am so grateful to all of my faithful readers who have been with me since the beginning of Blended and am honored that this blog has gained such a wide audience not only in the adoption world but also with...

Books for Children

The following books have been tried and found trustworthy by me! They are part of my personal library and I recommend them for yours.             

A Blended St. Patricks Day

A funny thing happened on St. Patrick’s Day. I realized with a jolt of happiness that my kids are comfortable in their individual ethnic identities. It was such a benign thing – sweet thing – funny thing that was happening for my girls that at first it didn’t...

Interview with Rhonda M. Roorda – Part 1

Last week I reviewed In Their Siblings' Voices by Rita J. Simon and Rhonda M. Roorda which you can read here. This week Rhonda graciously agreed to be interviewed and I think you'll find her insights invaluable to Blended Families. She talks openly about her own...

The Value of a Birth Story

It wasn’t too long ago that I overheard this conversation between my girls in the kitchen: “Mommy has a baby in her tummy. And soon she is going to have to push it out!” My oldest said. “Oh. Hmmm. Like how she pushed you out?” Said my youngest. “No. But you grew in...

Pen Pal Stationary

After moving to the NorthWest over a year ago, I rediscovered the joy of Pen Pals through my daughter. She moved away from many friends who she now corresponds with over snailmail, email, and yes, even Moshi Monsters. But I will forever have a softspot in my heart for...

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...