The Blended Life

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to 'Dynamite' together makes their brains release...

Helping Kids Through Trauma

The Blended Life has been quiet for the past month due to a serious accident in our family. All my time and strength has been invested solely on the home front to aid in the healing of my husband. As I look up from an intensely emotional and trying time I find that...

The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it...

Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let's all...

A Blended Life

My house is full of birthday celebrations this week which has left me short on writing time. I wish you a great weekend full of spring sunshine! Here are a few reads to keep you company. Two interesting articles by adoptees on reunion. The first by Liz Fields and the...

The Truth About Reunions

This week one of the trending topics on Facebook (and everywhere else) was the reunion of the "Burger King Baby" with her birthmother. Awhile back Katheryn Deprill took this photo of herself detailing what she knew about her abandonment as a baby in the bathroom of a...

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Transnational Adoption and Third Culture Kids

I find great joy in the fact that Blended features perspectives and stories that don't often get heard in the adoption community. In this vein, I am happy to share this space today with my friend Glen Braden.  Glen, an adoptive dad, shares openly about how adoption...

The Blended Life Turns Three

Blended celebrated three years in the blogosphere this week! Three whole years since I thought, "You know I don’t read any dedicated blogs for multiracial Blended families" and then had the crazy idea of beginning one. Three years of blogging during naps, blogging...

Throwback Thursday: What I Would Say To You

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Every Thursday in November in honor of National Adoption Month I will host Throwback Thursday here at The Blended Life....

In Praise of Adjectives

Adjectives, nouns, and verbs. Second grade begins to teach the navigation of words in the English language. My seven year old had no problem with nouns and verbs, but adjectives trouble her. As seen by this recent work assignment at school in which she assigned...

Blended One Year Later And Giveaway!

Today I celebrate the one year anniversary of Blended. I am so grateful to all of my faithful readers who have been with me since the beginning of Blended and am honored that this blog has gained such a wide audience not only in the adoption world but also with...

Removed

So often our babes from foster care come with so many labels attached because of the trauma they have experienced. What we often fail to understand is that they WANT to revive connection, care, reciprocation, it's just such a long, long, way back. This is why Removed...

Dinners Around the World

I despise New Year’s resolutions. My experience is that people make these ‘resolutions’ flippantly and without any real, um, resolve. A few years back I was at a New Year’s Eve party and they took time out of the toasting and dancing to create a pie chart (a pie...

Calling All Cinema Lovers!

Ready to start your new year with great cinema? I discovered Watch Adoptee Films over the holiday and wanted to share this fabulous resource with Blended readers. Many of you have commented to me that neither your adoption agency or library own the films I have...

A Blended Approved Read – “Goose” by Molly Bang

My friend and Blended contributor Kurt emailed me recently about a video he stumbled across in his local library. The video is called Goose by Molly Bang and is narrated by Laura Dern. Originally a book, I quickly looked to see if it was in my library. Sadly it was...

Five Must Have Back to School Chats – #5 Make a New Friend

'Twas the night before school and all through the house not a child was stirring not even my preschooler. (To be honest I just put him to bed for the third time.) Its 0 days. No more days to prepare. Its - as my kids say – go time. Today we had our last and final Back...

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here’s a list of what I’m reading and thinking about this week. A great post over at Adoptive Families for those of you who will be talking to lower...

Dinners Around the World – December

  December! We are at the finish line friends! We have cooked around the world for one full year! I think it is fair to recount where we have been... January – Italy February – India March – Israel April – Thailand May – Vietnam June – Germany July – China August...

Games for Planes, Trains and Automobiles

I have been planning a little vacation around here and it comes with some serious time in the car. And while Car Bingo, Master of the Music, I Spy and an occasional movie gets us pretty far, it won't be far enough on this journey. So, I'm planning on bringing our iPad...

Homemade Doughnuts

I have written before about my son's allergies to preservatives and dyes. It limits his diet considerably and to ensure his safety I make most everything we eat from scratch. However, at a recent party he saw something he couldn't get past - Doughnuts. There they were...

A Blended Snapshot

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. A weekly ritual in an attempt to share small moments from The Blended Life.  Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended...