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Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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Oh, The Blended Web…

What are you doing this weekend? I am finishing Halloween costumes and picking pumpkins with these fall-minded kiddos of mine. What could be more fun than climbing in apple crates, over hay bales and getting lost in the corn maze? But after that I need to relax a...

On Being Ambiguous

“Its nice that you are honoring her Korean roots so well. But you realize that there will come a day when all she’ll be in America is black.” Those words were spoken to me when my daughter was not quite three. They were powerful words then and now I’m seeing those...

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here's a list of what I'm reading and thinking about this week. This past fall my children were obsessed with Doc McStuffins. Obsessed. Last month...

Closure – a film

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Last night I had the privilege of screening Closure, a film by Bryan Tucker. Closure is a film about his wife Angela's...

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here’s a list of what I’m reading and thinking about this week. A great post over at Adoptive Families for those of you who will be talking to lower...

A Blended Approved Read – “Goose” by Molly Bang

My friend and Blended contributor Kurt emailed me recently about a video he stumbled across in his local library. The video is called Goose by Molly Bang and is narrated by Laura Dern. Originally a book, I quickly looked to see if it was in my library. Sadly it was...

Pen Pal Stationary

After moving to the NorthWest over a year ago, I rediscovered the joy of Pen Pals through my daughter. She moved away from many friends who she now corresponds with over snailmail, email, and yes, even Moshi Monsters. But I will forever have a softspot in my heart for...

Perfect Posture

When I was a little girl my grandmother tried to work on my posture using the tried and true method of making me walk around the living room rigid with a book balanced precariously upon my head. In truth, it had little to no effect on my overall posture. However, it...

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Julie Chen – Just Plastic Surgery or Racism?

All weekend long my thoughts have been about Julie Chen. Initially last week I wanted to write a knee jerk response to her ‘secret’ revelation that at 25 years of age she had plastic surgery to make her eyes look ‘less Chinese.’ Julie Chen, one of the hosts of 'The...

Adding to your family through Embryo Adoption

I am often asked about Embryo Adoption (EA) and the addition of beautiful babes using EA to Blended families. I am no expert, so asked my friend Angela to write about her experience with EA and provide many of you with answers to your most common questions. I am...

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Throwback Thursday: My Adoptive Parenting Top 10

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Every Thursday in November in honor of National Adoption Month I will host Throwback Thursday here at The Blended Life....

Calling All Cinema Lovers!

Ready to start your new year with great cinema? I discovered Watch Adoptee Films over the holiday and wanted to share this fabulous resource with Blended readers. Many of you have commented to me that neither your adoption agency or library own the films I have...

Interview with Sundee T. Frazier and a Giveaway!

Last week I reviewed Sundee T. Frazier’s The Other Half of My Heart which you can read here. This week I connected with her and she graciously agreed to an interview.  She answered questions about being multiracial in America, the impact of that personal identity on...