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Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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10 Simple Things To Do For Bio Kids

At Blended I am firmly committed to growing and investing in our families as a whole – adoptive and bio kids together. In certain seasons of life it can seem that adoption milestones and issues take much of my mental steam. I process, prepare, gather resources,...

Homemade Doughnuts

I have written before about my son's allergies to preservatives and dyes. It limits his diet considerably and to ensure his safety I make most everything we eat from scratch. However, at a recent party he saw something he couldn't get past - Doughnuts. There they were...

On Mourning

Over the weekend we had one of the most difficult conversations I’ve ever had with my children. Motivated by the horrific crime in Connecticut yes, but also the shooting at our local mall in Portland last week, and the recent lockdown at three of our local schools...

Family Trees

School projects for a Blended family are sometimes so very interesting. An example is the old grade school standby 'The Family Tree.' I have recently realized that that 'tree' will most likely be staring me down soon and I needed to find some creative school solutions...

A Blended Snapshot

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. A weekly ritual in an attempt to share small moments from The Blended Life.  Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended...

Five Must Have Back to School Chats – #5 Make a New Friend

'Twas the night before school and all through the house not a child was stirring not even my preschooler. (To be honest I just put him to bed for the third time.) Its 0 days. No more days to prepare. Its - as my kids say – go time. Today we had our last and final Back...

Oh, The Blended Web…

What are you doing this weekend? I am finishing Halloween costumes and picking pumpkins with these fall-minded kiddos of mine. What could be more fun than climbing in apple crates, over hay bales and getting lost in the corn maze? But after that I need to relax a...

Oh The Blended Web…

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. What are you up to this weekend? It's rainy and gray in the NW (surprise!) so my girls are plotting and planning...

Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let's all...

Oh, The Blended Web

With the sun making it's first appearance here in some time, I am planning some outdoor fun for this family of mine. What are you doing this weekend?  Whatever you do, make some time to relax and enjoy a special curated list of articles and happenings just for Blended...

Throwback Thursday: The Value of a Birth Story

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Every Thursday in November in honor of National Adoption Month I will host Throwback Thursday here at The Blended Life....

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to 'Dynamite' together makes their brains release...

Summer Tans and Free Time

Oh my – summer is finally here! Its only the third full week of summer, but it seems to be whizzing by at record speed. My family kicked it off with out of town visitors, Vacation Bible School, a trip to the beach, and constant SWIMMING!  And again this summer the...

Five Must Have Back to School Chats – #3 Race

Yes, I see all your first day of school pictures but I am still 13 days from our first day of school! So today I am having the third of my Must Have Back to School Chats with my kids. Today’s chat is about race. I write often here about talking with my kids about race...

The Blended Life Turns Three

Blended celebrated three years in the blogosphere this week! Three whole years since I thought, "You know I don’t read any dedicated blogs for multiracial Blended families" and then had the crazy idea of beginning one. Three years of blogging during naps, blogging...