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Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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Somewhere Between – a film

Adoption Mosaic in Portland hosted a free screening of Somewhere Between a few weeks back and I missed it! Never to fear though, faithful friend Netflix brought the film right to my door. Let me reiterate something I have said before in this space - I watch a lot of...

On Blended Sisterhood

My favorite summer moment happened this morning between my girls.  I have written some about my girls in the past and how watching them grow into sisterhood is heartwarming for me. And yes, they have their moments and will continue to have them. And yes, I’m trying to...

The Mother’s Day Bruhaha

Every year as May rolls around I hear and read the same old things from those in the adoption community. For those unaware, May holds both Mother's Day and Birthmother's Day, separated only by one day. There are those in the adoption community that feel passionate...

A Blended Approved Read – “The Other Half of My Heart”

I am always on the look out for books that my oldest daughter can read that involve multiracial protagonists and/or viewpoints that she can identify with from a Blended family perspective. They are hard to find, but not impossible. This past fall I discovered my new...

Dinners Around the World – December

  December! We are at the finish line friends! We have cooked around the world for one full year! I think it is fair to recount where we have been... January – Italy February – India March – Israel April – Thailand May – Vietnam June – Germany July – China August...

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Everyday Bread

One of the biggest changes we made when we discovered our son was allergic to preservatives in our everyday food, was change our everyday bread. We could no longer purchase bread at the grocery store because of all the chemicals in each loaf, and the all natural...

Transnational Adoption and Third Culture Kids

I find great joy in the fact that Blended features perspectives and stories that don't often get heard in the adoption community. In this vein, I am happy to share this space today with my friend Glen Braden.  Glen, an adoptive dad, shares openly about how adoption...

Blended at Feast

Recently I had the honor of speaking at FEAST, a program offered by First Presbyterian Church in Vancouver, Washington. It is a community event at which they have dinner together and then learn together around a given topic. It was a joy for me to share about the...

The New American Family

This blog entry is part self confession. I must admit that when American Idol first debuted, I liked it. Well, I more than liked it – I looked forward to watching. But after a season or two the show wore on me and I stopped watching. A few weeks ago I saw a commercial...

Adding to your family through Embryo Adoption

I am often asked about Embryo Adoption (EA) and the addition of beautiful babes using EA to Blended families. I am no expert, so asked my friend Angela to write about her experience with EA and provide many of you with answers to your most common questions. I am...

A Tale of Two Mommies

We were smack dab in the middle of the bedtime routine, deeply involved in the storied negotiations involving a grasshopper and an ant when my three-year-old son said, “Mommy, I’ve been thinking about something.” “About grasshoppers?” I asked. “No. About mommies.” He...

Two Must See Adoption Themed Films

You will find here at Blended many reviews about books, TV, tools, and films for adoptive families. I try to only point to those that have been most helpful to me, or those that have the most universal appeal and are high quality. Currently there are two films, one...

Throwback Thursday: The Value of a Birth Story

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Every Thursday in November in honor of National Adoption Month I will host Throwback Thursday here at The Blended Life....

How to Beat the Lunch Box Blues

The Lunch Box. It is compared, critiqued and cherished. Here is my sister posing for her first day of school in 1976 and making certain that her beloved Winnie the Pooh lunch box was ALSO present in the picture. What is so funny is that there are a few more of these...