The Blended Life

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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Adopted – a film by Barb Lee

  About a year ago I stumbled upon the website for the film Adopted. Sadly, I had not heard of it before and was intrigued by the premise of the movie and the complexities of transracial adoption in Blended families that they sought to explore. Unfortunately...

Becoming Families – Forever

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Tomorrow is National Adoption Day! The annual one day event that has finalized over 44,500 adoptions. I have heard from...

Everyday Bread

One of the biggest changes we made when we discovered our son was allergic to preservatives in our everyday food, was change our everyday bread. We could no longer purchase bread at the grocery store because of all the chemicals in each loaf, and the all natural...

Hair, Hair, Hair

Every Transracial adoptive parenting panel I have sat on has five key topics every parent in the room wants to discuss. Hair is always one of the five. While this may seem bizarre and even humorous to the non-Blended family, it is a struggle between parent and child...

What I Would Say To You

Last week I had an interesting conversation. A writer friend asked me if she were a prospective parent considering adopting a multiracial child what would be the top three things I would say to her. In some ways this resonated with a recent talk I gave at Feast which...

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here's a list of what I'm reading and thinking about this week. This past fall my children were obsessed with Doc McStuffins. Obsessed. Last month...

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here's a list of what I'm reading and thinking about this week. In honor of Martin Luther King, Jr.,  National Geographic Kids has a great set of...

A Blended Snapshot

Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended family. Happy Thanksgiving!

The Ever Requested Pretzel

Hot pretzels straight from the oven! In our house there are few things better than one of these beauties paired with a cold root beer. I kid you not, my children know when I have made these pretzels because they say they smell them in the air on the short walk home...

Dinners Around the World – June

After dance recitals, music recitals, field days, end of year field trips, end of season soccer parties and yes, alas, the final day of school, I give you what you've been waiting for - an excuse to drink beer! Ahem, I mean, the June menu which is a delicious...

Blended One Year Later And Giveaway!

Today I celebrate the one year anniversary of Blended. I am so grateful to all of my faithful readers who have been with me since the beginning of Blended and am honored that this blog has gained such a wide audience not only in the adoption world but also with...

Oh, The Blended Web…

  This weekend brings both the beginning of fall and also our first big storm to the Northwest. So for this rainy weekend I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Have a great weekend! Denene Millner, of My Brown Baby, shares...

Blended Moments

The end of summer took me by surprise as being the busiest time I can remember. We had family commitments, vacations to take (albeit that was lovely, except the packing and unpacking), out of town visitors, school shopping and of course the pre-school meltdowns. Mixed...

Hello 2013!

2012 will undoubtedly go down on the books as one of the most exciting yet difficult years of my life. I end it grateful for my family, for the precious gift of doing what I love, and for the readership here at this blog that is so close to my heart. Thank you readers...

Dinners Around the World – October

Friends, we have been cooking together for nine months! Nine months of homemade kitchen discoveries and ultimate cuisine disaster. It has been fun, right? My kids look forward to each month and just what I will surprise them with (sometimes to their horror). All in...