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Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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Its Time to Talk With Our Kids About Race

The number one question I have been asked in the last three days is “Are you talking with your kids about Trayvon Martin?” My resounding answer is YES. Where could I go that they would not see the image of Trayvon looking back at them? They wanted to know who he was...

Why I Read Essence (and you should too)

  Sometimes people do a double take. They see the overspill of magazines from my ‘magazine bin’ and turn back peering at the faces and names looking back at them from the covers. I have Portland Monthly in there yes, and my husband’s entrepreneurial rags espousing...

Deportation of Adoptees

In the past few weeks there has been a lot of hubbub in the news about adoption and in particular international adoptees. Sadly, those outside of the adoptive community have been given more cause to fear adoption than be proponents. But I would encourage you to...

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! While December took me by storm, I have now resolved (thank you 2012) to get back to a regular writing schedule (hello blog, I've missed you). I hope you greeted 2012 with new hopes, new resolve, and new energy, as I have. And while December was busy I...

Throwback Thursday: What I Would Say To You

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Every Thursday in November in honor of National Adoption Month I will host Throwback Thursday here at The Blended Life....

Many Mothers on Mother’s Day

I can still connect to the deep sense of loss and pain I felt waiting years to become a mother. And after years of feeling tremendous heartache, I then finally felt the joy and wonder at becoming a mother for the first time, and then the second time, and then the...

A Blended Approved Read – “Goose” by Molly Bang

My friend and Blended contributor Kurt emailed me recently about a video he stumbled across in his local library. The video is called Goose by Molly Bang and is narrated by Laura Dern. Originally a book, I quickly looked to see if it was in my library. Sadly it was...

A Blended Snapshot

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. A weekly ritual in an attempt to share small moments from The Blended Life.  Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended...

So, You Couldn’t Have Children of Your Own?

This week is Infertility Awareness Week and I’m participating with Adoption Magazine’s blog hop on this often difficult topic by sharing some of my personal story. People often assume that you are unable to have biological children when you adopt. Countless times,...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

On Women Heroes

It’s hot. And when it’s hot outside, my kids hibernate inside. My non-loving-reading ten-year-old becomes a reader when it’s sweltering. If I find the right book and the temperature hits the right degree, the only place for her is downstairs in the coolest room...

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

A Tale of Two Mommies

We were smack dab in the middle of the bedtime routine, deeply involved in the storied negotiations involving a grasshopper and an ant when my three-year-old son said, “Mommy, I’ve been thinking about something.” “About grasshoppers?” I asked. “No. About mommies.” He...

Science and Engineering Gift Ideas for Tween Girls

Image from GS Blog ELEVEN. My oldest turned ELEVEN last week. And because of this milestone birthday – as she is calling it – I started looking around at the toys in our house a bit differently. Clearly, times are changing. Always interested in building, creating, and...