After the many responses to last week’s post I wanted to recommend a book this morning. Many of you had questions regarding the development of your own racial identity and questions about aiding in the development of your child’s identity. I have so appreciated each of your comments and emails and take to heart many of the painful experiences each of you have had to endure.

Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria - Tatum

With that in mind I would recommend Beverly Daniel Tatum’s book, “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?” While the title asks a question that is provocative, the book offers up insights and instruction into racial identity and identity development. She also has an excellent chapter on “Identity Development in Multiracial Families”. I first read this book back in 2000, but have re-read parts of it over the years and it has served in many ways as a touchstone for my own identity development, which has then enabled me to positively help my children’s development.

A quick shout out to Jon, a reader who reminded me of the useful expertise of Tatum’s book. For those of you who are interested in adding this book to your personal library click here.