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Diversifying Your Shelves – Book Smitten

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Diversifying Your Shelves – Book Smitten

Book-smitten. A word I coined with my kids when we fall in love with a book. For me, that book must contribute to our bookshelf – in story, diversity, and beauty. The power of diversifying your bookshelf is found both in your children seeing themselves on the written page and also seeing someone different than himself or herself. Here are three choices I am book-smitten over this month. Going Places by Peter and Paul Reynolds is a read that will encourage your kids to think outside the box. Featuring a diverse group of characters and...

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Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

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Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost a good man’ in my hands. It was Back to School season when all children are abuzz with excitement, but all I felt in that moment was a sense of loss. It had been two days since learning of a friend’s sudden death and two weeks since Michael Brown’s shooting. Later in the car, my...

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Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

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Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to ‘Dynamite‘ together makes their brains release copious amounts of endorphins and everyone is beaming smiles, ready to start the day. I sat slicing black craft felt into squares and tacky gluing them to the backside of white tiles in preparation for the first grade Father’s Day project. It was mindless work and so...

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Helping Kids Through Trauma

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Helping Kids Through Trauma

The Blended Life has been quiet for the past month due to a serious accident in our family. All my time and strength has been invested solely on the home front to aid in the healing of my husband. As I look up from an intensely emotional and trying time I find that most of what I have to say is not about the horror of the accident but rather some specific insights gleaned from helping my children cope over the past month. While I thought I knew a little something about trauma from walking in the adoption world, when it came right down to it,...

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Science and Engineering Gift Ideas for Tween Girls

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Science and Engineering Gift Ideas for Tween Girls

Image from GS Blog ELEVEN. My oldest turned ELEVEN last week. And because of this milestone birthday – as she is calling it – I started looking around at the toys in our house a bit differently. Clearly, times are changing. Always interested in building, creating, and inventing, this girl has grown out of her Tinker Toys, Lego Sets, and architecture tools into something, well, something we didn’t have yet. With a brain wired for science and engineering she spends nearly all her free time learning to code or sketching out architectural...

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The Happiest Memory

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The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it tenderly within the pages of her thickest bound book.   This same image looks back at me from the wall of my bedroom. She in my arms, smiling and squirming, begging to get down and run willy-nilly about the empty courtroom. And that severe looking man is there too in his long...

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Spring Break Staycation

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Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let’s all have a ‘poor me’ moment on my behalf. Okay, I feel better.} Instead of sipping and surfing I had an official staycation with my kids. I don’t know when the word staycation came into vogue nor am I familiar with the level of glamour a staycation is supposed...

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How To Talk About The Hard Things {Or Eleven-Year-Old Sages}

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How To Talk About The Hard Things {Or Eleven-Year-Old Sages}

I am the official Spring Break Chauffeur or “SBC” as I am enjoying calling myself. If you’re at my house you might even hear me announce, “The SBC says it’s time to depart.” {Somehow using a title gets my kids moving toward the van instead of my usual boring mom role.} This past week a multitude of children have poured in and out of my van. Each leaving a wrapper or two, an empty juice box, mitten, toy or other such mark of their traveling existence with my family. But what I did not anticipate was learning a few things from these kids...

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A Blended Life

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A Blended Life

My house is full of birthday celebrations this week which has left me short on writing time. I wish you a great weekend full of spring sunshine! Here are a few reads to keep you company. Two interesting articles by adoptees on reunion. The first by Liz Fields and the second by Lisa Lutz. Awhile back I wrote about Diversifying Your Home. Read these two recent takes on the topic – Why Everybody Should Read Black Children’s Books and this one on the Apartheid of Children’s Literature. And this article is changing perceptions...

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The Truth About Reunions

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The Truth About Reunions

This week one of the trending topics on Facebook (and everywhere else) was the reunion of the “Burger King Baby” with her birthmother. Awhile back Katheryn Deprill took this photo of herself detailing what she knew about her abandonment as a baby in the bathroom of a Burger King: I remember seeing this picture when it was circulating on Facebook. Dueling thoughts came my way – wow, she’s brave and will this work? Now we know that the image was shared over 30,000 times and one of the viewers of the photo was her...

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