The Blended Life

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to 'Dynamite' together makes their brains release...

Helping Kids Through Trauma

The Blended Life has been quiet for the past month due to a serious accident in our family. All my time and strength has been invested solely on the home front to aid in the healing of my husband. As I look up from an intensely emotional and trying time I find that...

The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it...

Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let's all...

A Blended Life

My house is full of birthday celebrations this week which has left me short on writing time. I wish you a great weekend full of spring sunshine! Here are a few reads to keep you company. Two interesting articles by adoptees on reunion. The first by Liz Fields and the...

The Truth About Reunions

This week one of the trending topics on Facebook (and everywhere else) was the reunion of the "Burger King Baby" with her birthmother. Awhile back Katheryn Deprill took this photo of herself detailing what she knew about her abandonment as a baby in the bathroom of a...

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What I Would Say to You

Last year I wrote a post called What I Would Say to You about transracial adoption that turned out to be one of the most popular posts on The Blended Life. From the questions I received and the overall response I wanted to ask a few friends to guest post for me about...

Books for Children

The following books have been tried and found trustworthy by me! They are part of my personal library and I recommend them for yours.             

Julie Chen – Just Plastic Surgery or Racism?

All weekend long my thoughts have been about Julie Chen. Initially last week I wanted to write a knee jerk response to her ‘secret’ revelation that at 25 years of age she had plastic surgery to make her eyes look ‘less Chinese.’ Julie Chen, one of the hosts of 'The...

How To Talk About The Hard Things {Or Eleven-Year-Old Sages}

I am the official Spring Break Chauffeur or “SBC” as I am enjoying calling myself. If you're at my house you might even hear me announce, “The SBC says it’s time to depart.” {Somehow using a title gets my kids moving toward the van instead of my usual boring mom...

When 2014 Seems Like 1944 – The Japanese Internment Camps

She came home in a huff, dropped her backpack by the bench and slumped into the oversized threadbare blue chair in the living room. I know enough to leave her alone for a bit when she’s like this because she’s working something out. She sits quietly in the corner...

Happily Home Again

The Marina Bay Sands Resort - Singapore   Thank you Blended readers for all the well wishes for our trip to Singapore! My daughter and I are fully recovered from jet lag and ready for re-entry into summer. I have thought about what I appreciated most about being...

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Boredom Buster Sites for Kids

A few weeks ago I was featured over at The Chaos and The Clutter for my Boredom Buster Books post. I wanted to follow that piece with some amazing websites that will also engage, encourage and spur creativity in your kids this summer. These sites are basically like...

Family Trees

School projects for a Blended family are sometimes so very interesting. An example is the old grade school standby 'The Family Tree.' I have recently realized that that 'tree' will most likely be staring me down soon and I needed to find some creative school solutions...

Everyday Bread

One of the biggest changes we made when we discovered our son was allergic to preservatives in our everyday food, was change our everyday bread. We could no longer purchase bread at the grocery store because of all the chemicals in each loaf, and the all natural...

A Blended Approved Read – “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?”

After the many responses to last week’s post I wanted to recommend a book this morning. Many of you had questions regarding the development of your own racial identity and questions about aiding in the development of your child’s identity. I have so appreciated each...

So Many Questions

Questions. Everyone seems to have questions. Questions about adoption, questions about being a multiracial family, questions about race, questions about why we adopted, when we adopted, how we adopted. There are times when I don’t mind and times that I’m tired of...

Many Mothers on Mother’s Day

I can still connect to the deep sense of loss and pain I felt waiting years to become a mother. And after years of feeling tremendous heartache, I then finally felt the joy and wonder at becoming a mother for the first time, and then the second time, and then the...

Why I Taught My Girls To Say IF

I wrote this post back in May after hearing my girls playing, but did not publish it because I wondered if other parents would connect. In light of the Time article "The Childfree Life" back in August and the many fruitful discussions that have come from that piece I...

Diversifying Your Shelves – Book Smitten

Book-smitten. A word I coined with my kids when we fall in love with a book. For me, that book must contribute to our bookshelf - in story, diversity, and beauty. The power of diversifying your bookshelf is found both in your children seeing themselves on the written...