The Blended Life

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to 'Dynamite' together makes their brains release...

Helping Kids Through Trauma

The Blended Life has been quiet for the past month due to a serious accident in our family. All my time and strength has been invested solely on the home front to aid in the healing of my husband. As I look up from an intensely emotional and trying time I find that...

The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it...

Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let's all...

A Blended Life

My house is full of birthday celebrations this week which has left me short on writing time. I wish you a great weekend full of spring sunshine! Here are a few reads to keep you company. Two interesting articles by adoptees on reunion. The first by Liz Fields and the...

The Truth About Reunions

This week one of the trending topics on Facebook (and everywhere else) was the reunion of the "Burger King Baby" with her birthmother. Awhile back Katheryn Deprill took this photo of herself detailing what she knew about her abandonment as a baby in the bathroom of a...

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Dinners Around the World – October

Friends, we have been cooking together for nine months! Nine months of homemade kitchen discoveries and ultimate cuisine disaster. It has been fun, right? My kids look forward to each month and just what I will surprise them with (sometimes to their horror). All in...

Homemade Doughnuts

I have written before about my son's allergies to preservatives and dyes. It limits his diet considerably and to ensure his safety I make most everything we eat from scratch. However, at a recent party he saw something he couldn't get past - Doughnuts. There they were...

Five Must Have Back to School Chats – #5 Make a New Friend

'Twas the night before school and all through the house not a child was stirring not even my preschooler. (To be honest I just put him to bed for the third time.) Its 0 days. No more days to prepare. Its - as my kids say – go time. Today we had our last and final Back...

When the Mundane Leads to Big Questions

Yesterday the girls and I were at the grocery store. I find the grocery shopping so monotonous and grueling that I always beg my girls for company and miraculously both agreed to come! We chitchatted through the store as the girls spotted things that looked delicious...

Its Time to Talk With Our Kids About Race

The number one question I have been asked in the last three days is “Are you talking with your kids about Trayvon Martin?” My resounding answer is YES. Where could I go that they would not see the image of Trayvon looking back at them? They wanted to know who he was...

Bonding and Attachment in Blended Families – Part 2

I am so fortunate to know other Blended families who have walked the same path as my family and have the capacity to talk openly about their personal experiences. My friend Amy, who is both a mother of a Blended family and a social worker, shares her continuing...

Okay, Let’s Talk About Mitt Romney…

No, no this post is not political. At least, I don't intend it to be. Rather I want this post to be a rallying cry for understanding. Over the past few weeks, within the circles I run, Mitt Romney has been a rampant source of conversation. I will admit to you, that...

Dinners Around the World – August

  My kids were so happy in July. The menu proved to be a delight and they looked forward to each meal and the discussions about Chinese culture. Now, in this hot and steamy end of summer month we move on to Brazil! August will prove interesting and fun as I am...

A Blended Approved Read – “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?”

After the many responses to last week’s post I wanted to recommend a book this morning. Many of you had questions regarding the development of your own racial identity and questions about aiding in the development of your child’s identity. I have so appreciated each...

Oh The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here's a list of what I'm reading and thinking about this week. Last week I discovered this amazing resource and can't seem to stop perusing the...

Adventures with Boys

I’m joining the conversation again this morning over at The Chaos and the Clutter writing about Tender Moments with those precious Toddlers and Preschoolers. ♥♥♥ I will never forget that twenty week ultrasound for my third child. Laying on that table propped up with...

Accurate Family Portraits

Do you have a budding artist in your house? My oldest definitely is and its hard to keep her satisfied with art supplies. One of her biggest complaints is when she is rendering our family on paper. In her opinion, crayons and watercolors don't quite accurately display...

My Kids Have A Dream

  This morning after breakfast I lugged the iPad over to the table and pulled three chairs to one side, all while coaxing three very sleepy eyed kids to watch something important (no its not a cartoon). Just watch this I said (no its not a video of you). Its a...

Why You Should Not Fear Adoption from Foster Care

When I met my daughter for the first time she was almost three months old. She was wearing a pink baby onesie with bloomers and on her tiny feet she wore socks with pink scrolling letters that said "I love my Mommy." She had that baby fresh smell and as she was placed...

Dinners Around the World – December

  December! We are at the finish line friends! We have cooked around the world for one full year! I think it is fair to recount where we have been... January – Italy February – India March – Israel April – Thailand May – Vietnam June – Germany July – China August...