The Blended Life

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to 'Dynamite' together makes their brains release...

Helping Kids Through Trauma

The Blended Life has been quiet for the past month due to a serious accident in our family. All my time and strength has been invested solely on the home front to aid in the healing of my husband. As I look up from an intensely emotional and trying time I find that...

The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it...

Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let's all...

A Blended Life

My house is full of birthday celebrations this week which has left me short on writing time. I wish you a great weekend full of spring sunshine! Here are a few reads to keep you company. Two interesting articles by adoptees on reunion. The first by Liz Fields and the...

The Truth About Reunions

This week one of the trending topics on Facebook (and everywhere else) was the reunion of the "Burger King Baby" with her birthmother. Awhile back Katheryn Deprill took this photo of herself detailing what she knew about her abandonment as a baby in the bathroom of a...

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Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web (and in my life as I head into Spring Break) I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here’s a list of what I’m reading and thinking about this week. First, a huge congratulations to the...

Dinners Around the World – August

  My kids were so happy in July. The menu proved to be a delight and they looked forward to each meal and the discussions about Chinese culture. Now, in this hot and steamy end of summer month we move on to Brazil! August will prove interesting and fun as I am...

Blended One Year Later And Giveaway!

Today I celebrate the one year anniversary of Blended. I am so grateful to all of my faithful readers who have been with me since the beginning of Blended and am honored that this blog has gained such a wide audience not only in the adoption world but also with...

Adventures with Boys

I’m joining the conversation again this morning over at The Chaos and the Clutter writing about Tender Moments with those precious Toddlers and Preschoolers. ♥♥♥ I will never forget that twenty week ultrasound for my third child. Laying on that table propped up with...

On Women Heroes

It’s hot. And when it’s hot outside, my kids hibernate inside. My non-loving-reading ten-year-old becomes a reader when it’s sweltering. If I find the right book and the temperature hits the right degree, the only place for her is downstairs in the coolest room...

In Praise of Adjectives

Adjectives, nouns, and verbs. Second grade begins to teach the navigation of words in the English language. My seven year old had no problem with nouns and verbs, but adjectives trouble her. As seen by this recent work assignment at school in which she assigned...

Why I Hate-Love “Jessie”

“Jessie” is a sitcom on the Disney Channel that debuted last fall. Have you seen it? It’s a familiar small town girl goes to the big city story. The character Jessie, played by Debby Ryan, then finds a job as nanny to a high-powered couple in Manhattan with four...

Oh The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here's a list of what I'm reading and thinking about this week. Last week I discovered this amazing resource and can't seem to stop perusing the...

A Blended Approved Read – “Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?”

After the many responses to last week’s post I wanted to recommend a book this morning. Many of you had questions regarding the development of your own racial identity and questions about aiding in the development of your child’s identity. I have so appreciated each...

A Blended Snapshot

Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended family.

Deportation of Adoptees

In the past few weeks there has been a lot of hubbub in the news about adoption and in particular international adoptees. Sadly, those outside of the adoptive community have been given more cause to fear adoption than be proponents. But I would encourage you to...

Dinners Around the World – March

So, I have to ask. How did February go? Did your family enjoy Indian food? Let me tell you about our rocky journey through India. First, I made the Chicken Curry way too hot. Not just your meager, that's spicy -  way, way too hot. I was sweating. The kids went red in...

When to Tell Your Child Their Whole Story

Adoption is birthed from loss; there is no way around that. Once we as adoptive parents can get our hearts around that truth we are better equipped to help our kids. Those of us who know our child's early beginnings have the meaningful job of communicating those...

There Is A Tween Living In My House

At the beginning of the year after wishing you a Happy New Year I mentioned that we are in a new phase of life with a full fledged Tween in the house. As with any new season of life this has brought new issues and experiences, and some of it has centered on adoption....

Give a Welcome Box to a Child Entering Foster Care This Season

Our Advent Calendar was hung with great excitement and anticipation on November 30th. Each morning since the 1st of December my kids enter our kitchen with shuffling feet and sleepy eyes, awake only enough to search out if their siblings are also awake and then one of...