The Blended Life

Bereavement, Being Black, and Back to School

  The day of Michael Brown’s funeral I stood in the bereavement card aisle. My three children danced and swirled about me pulling open cards that loudly played “We Are the Champions” or “Celebration” as I stood frozen, hands sweaty, with a card that read ‘We lost...

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

Crow, Hawk, and A Little Boy’s Pain

I was sitting in the hallway outside three classrooms overflowing with first graders. It was moments after morning exercise when it seems that the kids are most awake, engaged, and happy. Something about bopping along to 'Dynamite' together makes their brains release...

Helping Kids Through Trauma

The Blended Life has been quiet for the past month due to a serious accident in our family. All my time and strength has been invested solely on the home front to aid in the healing of my husband. As I look up from an intensely emotional and trying time I find that...

The Happiest Memory

She slipped the photograph between sheets of plastic to protect it, careful only to touch the sides of the picture. This girl whose clothes, used tissues, and eraser bits lay about her room in heaps, held the image cautiously and lovingly, like a newborn, tucking it...

Spring Break Staycation

My expectations have always been set fairly high for spring break vacation. This year I wanted to flee south for spring break. To sip something beachside and watch my kids play in the surf. But my husband went east and we stayed put. No sipping, no surf. {Let's all...

A Blended Life

My house is full of birthday celebrations this week which has left me short on writing time. I wish you a great weekend full of spring sunshine! Here are a few reads to keep you company. Two interesting articles by adoptees on reunion. The first by Liz Fields and the...

The Truth About Reunions

This week one of the trending topics on Facebook (and everywhere else) was the reunion of the "Burger King Baby" with her birthmother. Awhile back Katheryn Deprill took this photo of herself detailing what she knew about her abandonment as a baby in the bathroom of a...

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The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

When Hair is Threatening

    Back in September my oldest daughter and I were listening to the news in the car when we heard about Tiana Parker. A seven-year-old excluded from school for lacking 'presentable' hair. We learned that little Ms. Parker's 'unpresentable hair' was dreads...

Why I Hate-Love “Jessie”

“Jessie” is a sitcom on the Disney Channel that debuted last fall. Have you seen it? It’s a familiar small town girl goes to the big city story. The character Jessie, played by Debby Ryan, then finds a job as nanny to a high-powered couple in Manhattan with four...

A Blended Approved Read – “The Hundred Dresses”

As a family we read books aloud together before bed. It is a family ritual that we rarely miss. We have read all kinds of books across many genres, but really it comes down to whatever strikes the kids’ fancy at the moment. Some recent favorites have included The...

Dinners Around the World – September

The back to school season is about new beginnings. New experiences and trying new things. With the September rush don't forget to keep cooking along with the Blended community as we tackle together Greek cuisine! (Somehow it seems fitting that as my children hit the...

When the Mundane Leads to Big Questions

Yesterday the girls and I were at the grocery store. I find the grocery shopping so monotonous and grueling that I always beg my girls for company and miraculously both agreed to come! We chitchatted through the store as the girls spotted things that looked delicious...

Dinners Around the World – July

I may have made a serious misstep here. The kids listed China as one of the countries they wanted to learn more about but as July crept near, they began to order. As in, place their orders as if I were their personal Chinese take-out restaurant. After pushing a few...

Removed

So often our babes from foster care come with so many labels attached because of the trauma they have experienced. What we often fail to understand is that they WANT to revive connection, care, reciprocation, it's just such a long, long, way back. This is why Removed...

Belonging

Perhaps the greatest tenet of family is that you belong somewhere. I was reminded of this yesterday as I sat in my hair stylist’s chair and eavesdropped on the conversation beside me. The woman was describing her Caucasian suburban family in detail. Her parents, both...

Alpaca Hats

A few months ago while anticipating the arrival of another niece (horray!) I began thinking about what to make for the new family addition. If you are a knitter like me, you may have an overwhelming stash of yarn odds and ends. I was pleased to find in my stash the...

Five Must Have Back to School Chats – #3 Race

Yes, I see all your first day of school pictures but I am still 13 days from our first day of school! So today I am having the third of my Must Have Back to School Chats with my kids. Today’s chat is about race. I write often here about talking with my kids about race...

What I Would Say to You

Last year I wrote a post called What I Would Say to You about transracial adoption that turned out to be one of the most popular posts on The Blended Life. From the questions I received and the overall response I wanted to ask a few friends to guest post for me about...

Happily Home Again

The Marina Bay Sands Resort - Singapore   Thank you Blended readers for all the well wishes for our trip to Singapore! My daughter and I are fully recovered from jet lag and ready for re-entry into summer. I have thought about what I appreciated most about being...

Dinners Around the World – January

The response from my post about Dinners Around the World was wonderful! So many of you would like to join us in our spin around the globe and a reader suggested I post my weeklong dinner menu for all of you to join in the cooking, eating, and conversation. I am happy...

Oh, The Blended Web…

  This weekend brings both the beginning of fall and also our first big storm to the Northwest. So for this rainy weekend I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Have a great weekend! Denene Millner, of My Brown Baby, shares...