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Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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Five Must Have Back to School Chats – #1 Adoption

I am 26 days from the first day of school. 26 days from all three of my children going to school. Not just two – all three. Not that I am counting (never mind that giant calendar in my office that has red X’s through every day of August so far). I jest (a little), but...

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here’s a list of what I’m reading and thinking about this week. Oh to live in L.A. The first ever *for credit* high school course about multiracial...

Dinners Around the World – August

  My kids were so happy in July. The menu proved to be a delight and they looked forward to each meal and the discussions about Chinese culture. Now, in this hot and steamy end of summer month we move on to Brazil! August will prove interesting and fun as I am...

Loving Day

In honor of the recent Cheerios commercial I am celebrating Loving Day today. June 12th is an annual celebration held on the anniversary of the 1967 United States Supreme Court decision Loving vs. Virginia. This decision legalized inter-racial marriage in the United...

Oh, The Blended Web…

What are you doing this weekend? I am finishing Halloween costumes and picking pumpkins with these fall-minded kiddos of mine. What could be more fun than climbing in apple crates, over hay bales and getting lost in the corn maze? But after that I need to relax a...

Oh, The Blended Web…

  With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here's a list of what I'm reading and thinking about this week. Dr. Jane Aronson imagines a world without her children in response to the...

On Being Ambiguous

“Its nice that you are honoring her Korean roots so well. But you realize that there will come a day when all she’ll be in America is black.” Those words were spoken to me when my daughter was not quite three. They were powerful words then and now I’m seeing those...

The New American Family

This blog entry is part self confession. I must admit that when American Idol first debuted, I liked it. Well, I more than liked it – I looked forward to watching. But after a season or two the show wore on me and I stopped watching. A few weeks ago I saw a commercial...

Diversifying Your Home – Part 3

  Our family makes no secret about how much we love and yearn to travel. In fact, every spare penny usually goes toward the expense of getting some or all of us somewhere else. It is in this vein that I will travel with my “always have your passport ready”...

Off and Running – a film

Like many adoptive parents, I watch various movies and documentaries about adoption. I rarely recommend these films to the Blended audience because I feel that they don’t necessarily touch on new ground or give adoptive parents pause for new reflection. But I did see...

There Is A Tween Living In My House

At the beginning of the year after wishing you a Happy New Year I mentioned that we are in a new phase of life with a full fledged Tween in the house. As with any new season of life this has brought new issues and experiences, and some of it has centered on adoption....

Why I Taught My Girls To Say IF

I wrote this post back in May after hearing my girls playing, but did not publish it because I wondered if other parents would connect. In light of the Time article "The Childfree Life" back in August and the many fruitful discussions that have come from that piece I...

Dinners Around the World – December

  December! We are at the finish line friends! We have cooked around the world for one full year! I think it is fair to recount where we have been... January – Italy February – India March – Israel April – Thailand May – Vietnam June – Germany July – China August...

Books for Adults

The following books have been tried and found trustworthy by me! They are part of my personal library and I recommend them for yours.    

Diversifying Your Shelves – Book Smitten

Book-smitten. A word I coined with my kids when we fall in love with a book. For me, that book must contribute to our bookshelf - in story, diversity, and beauty. The power of diversifying your bookshelf is found both in your children seeing themselves on the written...