The Blended Life

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Encouraging Multiracial Identity

Two things that are of utmost importance to me as a transracial adoptive parent are learning from adult adoptees and gathering tools for my child that encourage her identity. That's why when I read Sharon H. Chang's article "Why Mixed with White isn't White" over at...

Words

Words

  Words. I recall this saying, Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me. It was a lie. In the adoption world, especially in the transracial adoption world, words hurt. Intentional words meant to alienate, separate, and ‘other’ my family....

Participate

Participate

Yesterday my kindergartner came home after a discussion about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. at school and had questions. I was busy making dinner, answering questions about homework requirements, checking in about tutoring sessions, and listening to voicemail – you know...

Waiting for Truth

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...

The Best Reads from NAM

The Best Reads from NAM

National Adoption Month is over. The month of November can so often be a mixed bag of emotion for adoptees and adoptive families. There seems to be an unending circle critiquing one another about being too positive, not real enough, too negative, sugar-coating, or...

The Truth in Your DNA

  Her words hit me in the gut. “Mom, I don’t care if it’s my birthday and Christmas presents for the next five years. The greatest gift I could ever receive is knowing who I am.” My daughter is talking about a DNA test. Over the summer we had hoped the state...

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Games for Planes, Trains and Automobiles

I have been planning a little vacation around here and it comes with some serious time in the car. And while Car Bingo, Master of the Music, I Spy and an occasional movie gets us pretty far, it won't be far enough on this journey. So, I'm planning on bringing our iPad...

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! While December took me by storm, I have now resolved (thank you 2012) to get back to a regular writing schedule (hello blog, I've missed you). I hope you greeted 2012 with new hopes, new resolve, and new energy, as I have. And while December was busy I...

Giveaway Winner!

Congratulations Karen S.! You have won "Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria" by Tatum. Thank you to all of you who emailed and commented to celebrate Blended's First Anniversary!

Oh, The Blended Web…

With far too much happening on the web I curated a special list of articles and happenings just for Blended readers. Here’s a list of what I’m reading and thinking about this week. Oh to live in L.A. The first ever *for credit* high school course about multiracial...

Why You Should Not Fear Adoption from Foster Care

When I met my daughter for the first time she was almost three months old. She was wearing a pink baby onesie with bloomers and on her tiny feet she wore socks with pink scrolling letters that said "I love my Mommy." She had that baby fresh smell and as she was placed...

A Blended Snapshot

Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended family. Happy Thanksgiving!

A Blended Snapshot

November is National Adoption Month in which we remember the over 101,000 children waiting in foster care and hoping for placement with families. Beginning a weekly ritual here in an attempt to share small moments from The Blended Life. Just a simple snapshot from...

A True Sense of Family

The holidays always heighten my sense of family. The days are darker earlier and there is more time to sit beside the fire and snuggle and talk before my kids trail off to bed. Lately I have had long talks with my oldest daughter about what major she will choose when...

Summer Tans and Free Time

Oh my – summer is finally here! Its only the third full week of summer, but it seems to be whizzing by at record speed. My family kicked it off with out of town visitors, Vacation Bible School, a trip to the beach, and constant SWIMMING!  And again this summer the...

Conversations at the Grocery Store

I saw her in the dairy aisle. I say ‘saw’ because I quickly recognized myself in the frazzled, tired, need-a-nap mom as she fielded questions from her two little ones on either side of her cart while still managing to select the correct milk. I recognized the me in...

A Tractor Playground

Life in the Pacific Northwest is wet. This winter has also been cold and has kept my son, who loves the outdoors, inside. Creativity is spurred on by limits is it not? While my son longed for his near frozen sandbox in order to play with his new favorite mini tractor...

A Blended Snapshot

Just a simple snapshot from life as a Blended family.

The Value of a Birth Story

It wasn’t too long ago that I overheard this conversation between my girls in the kitchen: “Mommy has a baby in her tummy. And soon she is going to have to push it out!” My oldest said. “Oh. Hmmm. Like how she pushed you out?” Said my youngest. “No. But you grew in...

10 Simple Things To Do For Bio Kids

At Blended I am firmly committed to growing and investing in our families as a whole – adoptive and bio kids together. In certain seasons of life it can seem that adoption milestones and issues take much of my mental steam. I process, prepare, gather resources,...

Waiting for Truth

On December 9th I began drafting a response to the situation in Ferguson, to the denigration of black bodies, to the growing and needed conversation of race and racism in America, to the inevitable link between transracial adoption and racism. The conversation was on...